Don't offer advice immediately. Tame the inner advice monster and give the other person space to think about your question and response to it.
- Kickstart Question - "What's on your mind?"
- Focus on what matters to them the most
- AWE Question - "And what else?"
- Deepen the conversation
- What's the real challenge here for you?
“… the future is not a blank space for the inscription of technocratic enlightenment or for nature‘s long-term oscillations, but a space for democratic design that must begin with the recognition that the future is a cultural fact.” Arjun Appadurai
No amount of smiling at a staircase ever turned it into a ramp. Stella Young
"The curious task of economics is to demonstrate to men how little they really know about what they imagine they can design." Friedrich Hayek
“Not every problem someone has with his girlfriend is necessarily due to the capitalist mode of production.” Herbert Marcuse
“Free election of masters does not abolish the masters or the slaves.” - Herbert Marcuse
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat."
"If you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you, If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting too; If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies, Or being hated, don’t give way to hating, And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise: If you can dream—and not make dreams your master; If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim; If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster And treat those two impostors just the same; If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools, Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken, And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools: If you can make one heap of all your winnings And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss, And lose, and start again at your beginnings And never breathe a word about your loss; If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew To serve your turn long after they are gone, And so hold on when there is nothing in you Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’ If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch, If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you, If all men count with you, but none too much; If you can fill the unforgiving minute With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run, Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it, And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!"
When information is cheap, attention becomes expensive. James Gleick
“If you are immune to boredom, there is literally nothing you cannot accomplish.” David Foster Wallace
“Our main business is not to see what lies dimly in the distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand.”
A man who procrastinates in his CHOOSING will inevitably have his choice made for him by circumstance - Hunter s Thompson
"You hate America, don't you?" she said. "That would be as silly as loving it," I said. "It's impossible for me to get emotional about it, because real estate doesn't interest me. It's no doubt a great flaw in my personality, but I can't think in terms of boundaries. Those imaginary lines are as unreal to me as elves and pixies. I can't believe that they mark the end or the beginning of anything of real concern to the human soul. Virtues and vices, pleasures and pains cross boundaries at will." Kurt Vonnegut
"A part of good science is to see what everyone else can see but think what no one else has ever thought."
Culture eats strategy for breakfast Peter Drucker
“You can’t teach ‘Give a shit’”
When looking at your life, you see the outtakes. Other people just see the highlights
I [suspect] that we are throwing more and more of our resources, including the cream of our youth, into financial activities remote from the production of goods and services, into activities that generate high private rewards disproportionate to their social productivity. I suspect that the immense power of the computer is being harnessed to this 'paper economy', not to do the same transactions more economically but to balloon the quantity and variety of financial exchanges. James Tobin, July 1984
Technology is the active human interface with the material world. Ursula Le Guin
We thought we had defeated the natural world because we defeated the animals and plants, but it turned out that they were only our fellow-travelers, struggling to survive. The real natural world is dust and fire and flood and hard radiation. It never sleeps and it always hungers. Noah Smith
To understand what another person is saying, you must assume that it is true and try to imagine what it could be true of. George Miller
We shape our tools, thereafter our tools shape us. Marshall McLuhan
- Find a subject you care about.
- Do not ramble, though.
- Keep it simple.
- Have the guts to cut.
- Sound like yourself.
- Say what you mean to say.
- Pity the readers. Kurt Vonnegut
I didn’t change — I sloughed off the things that changed me, and it revealed more of what makes me who I am.
If a factory is torn down but the rationality which produced it is left standing, then that rationality will simply produce another factory. If a revolution destroys a government, but the systematic patterns of thought that produced that government are left intact, then those patterns will repeat themselves. . . . There’s so much talk about the system. And so little understanding. Robert Pirsig, Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance
A bit beyond perception's reach I sometimes believe I see that life is two locked boxes each containing the other’s key. Piet Hein
I’m paranoid as an act of good citizenship, concerned about what the powerful people are up to. Kurt Vonnegut
Conservatism consists of exactly one proposition …There must be in-groups whom the law protects but does not bind, alongside out-groups whom the law binds but does not protect. Frank Wilhoit
I come with empty hands and the desire to unbuild walls. Ursula Le Guin
Acts of love, though often smaller than acts of hate, are far more numerous.
a feeling of responsibility or remorse for some offense, crime, wrong, etc., whether real or imagined.
the painful feeling arising from the consciousness of something dishonorable, improper, ridiculous, etc., done by oneself or another.